In Memory of March: Reflections on Sisterhood From Editor in Chief Tamu McPherson

by Tamu McPherson

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Hey There, Pretty Birds! This Women’s History Month has been truly remarkable for our community. What began with a list of thought provoking articles ultimately centered on a series of conversations around BIPOC sisterhood and healing. We then expanded outwards to critical conversations taking place across our social media platforms. The stories we published this month are aimed at community soul searching and encouraging tough conversations that limit BIPOC women and groups as a whole. It’s no secret that our digital footprint is made up of multicultural, multiethnic stories; it’s the bread and butter of who we are and what we believe in. The Flock did a remarkable job this month curating and facilitating discussions on much needed stories.

On the subject of Sisterhood this month, we’ve touched nearly every category at All the Pretty Birds. Celebrating women, our stories, and our nuances is an everyday thing for us, but it’s our heart to further the untold. Here is my round up of our most important conversations had across all platforms, in memory of March.


Sisterhood: As Told By Our Favorite ATPB Categories


Our Hair, Don’t Care

Tessica Brown and The Ongoing Trials of Black Women’s Hair

If you are new to our online community, Our Hair, Don’t Care (OHDC) is a series touching on the dynamic relationship, we as women have with our hair.  Leading up to Women’s History Month, our team delved into Tessica Brown’s story. As a team, we confronted the problematic scrutiny and criticism that Tessica received after applying Gorilla Glue to her hair. Our Head of Social Media Alyx Carolus took the opportunity to pen “Tessica Brown, Gorilla Glue, and The Ongoing Trials of Black Women’s Hair.”

In her piece, Alyx defends Black women’s right to experiment with their hair. Ultimately, she considers all of the historical, racial discrimination that has been directed to Black women. Confronting the challenges of a world that ascribes to a white, European standard of beauty, she further addresses the negative impact of colorism and texturism. Not only externally, but in our own communities as well. The piece encourages us to unlearn these divisive tools to promote healing and solidarity.




Meghan Markle Reflections: Privilege, Colorism, and the In-Laws from Hell

Can we all agree the world stopped in light of Meghan Markle’s interview with Oprah? Our Flock certainly did. Facing the global uproar that took over our timelines, our Culture Contributor and Special Consultant, Paige Kendrick, took to the site to share her sentiments. In, “Meghan Markle Reflections: Privilege, Colorism, and the In-Laws from Hell,”  Paige looks at the inner workings of colorism and the complexities of the biracial identity. She implores us to pierce through the nuances of these white supremacist constructs in an effort to comprehend their danger.

Urgently, Paige prompts us to consider the complacency within our communities; and to shed their divisive cloak in the name of unity and the dismantling of the power possessed by our common oppressor. We moved the conversation moved to Instagram, where Paige Kendrick, special guest Arlene Gibbs, our Executive Editor, Milan Ball, and myself explored the matter. 


(Top Left to Right: Paige Kendrick, Arlene Gibbs; Bottom Left to Right: Myself, Milan Ball)


Sundays Were Made for Friends

The Flock Talks, “Complex Female Friendships”

There’s no denying that friendships have suffered on the backend of this global pandemic. In The Flock Talks, “Complex Female Friendships”, Alyx Carolus and Chloe’ Flowers, drop a sermon on the intricacies of sisterhood. Touching upon a plethora of topics, the two pinpoint obstacles in unleashing the full potential of sisterhood in a male dominated society. There is a lot of healing that needs to take place in our female communities and acknowledging the sore spots is a critical way to move forward. I highly recommend this piece as we all take stock and examine the inner workings of our relationships with the women in our lives. 


Pretty Birds

For the Love of Pretty Birds…Too Many Sisters to Count

Throughout the month of March we fostered an incredible number of conversations on sisterhood, leadership, and legacy. I had the pleasure of interviewing the remarkable, Rachel Cargle, on behalf of Cultured Magazine which we republished, all for you Pretty Birds! Rachel and I unpacked purpose, and discussed her many ventures as an advocate for Black women everywhere.  In addition to Rachel, we engaged conversation with powerhouses like Mahisha Dellinger, Stacy Stube, Lauren Jin, Sarah Chavez, and Theresa Ebagua. Each of these women in their own right are claiming space, making noise, and we couldn’t be more proud to promote the work they are doing to raise the bar for generations to come.


We continued these important conversations across our various social media platforms by hosting and participating in a number of events.

5 Conversations to Revisit In Case You Missed It Live:

1. Discussions on Womanhood, Leadership and Legacy – Clubhouse Flock Talks.

For our inaugural Clubhouse event, we were joined by Mahisha Dellinger, Candice Hoyes, Miko Underwood, Christina Tung, Arlene Gibbs, Theresa Ebagua, Karen Blanchard, myself, and our Executive Editor, Milan Ball. Unfortunately, our Clubhouse events are live stream only. Hyperlinked to this headline you will be prompted to ‘Join Clubhouse.’ Follow @alltheprettybirds on Clubhouse for future ‘Flock Talks’ and ‘Career Talk’ series. 


2. Meghan Markle Reflections: Privilege, Colorism, and the In-Laws from Hell

As mentioned, in this Live Instagram “Flock Talks”, Paige Kendrick, Arlene Gibbs, myself and Milan Ball addressed the Meghan Markle/Oprah interview and weighed in on the issues of privilege and colorism. Our talk was inspired by the aforementioned piece written by Kendrick.


3. Important Conversations on Anti-Aisian Racism and AAPI Allyship

On Instagram, I joined Susie Lau who shared her experience with reflections on historical Anti-Asian racism, and her reactions to the recent spike in global Asian hate crimes. In furthering the conversation, Christina Tung, Sarah Chavez, Roki Prunali and myself had an engaging discussion on AAPI Allyship. This was a much needed opportunity to create space, covering what it truly means to be an ally to the Asian American Pacific Islander community.


4. Why Are Black Women & Luxury A Triggering Subject?

A conversation initiated and by News Personality, Candice Brathwaite (@candicebrathwaite), amplified by Fashion Entrepreneur, Karen Blanchard (@karenbritchick). The Instagram Live was held with contributions from Elie Delphine (@slipintostyle) and myself, on the subject above: Why is Black women and luxury a triggering subject? The conversation prompted by circulation on social media, after Candice visited her inner thoughts on the matter. We never seem to question the white woman and her Birkin. When a Black women has one? A floodgate of questions surface. In this conversation, comparatively a wellness check, we explore the realities of being a Black woman in the luxury space, how we might be perceived, and unlearning our own bad habits.


5. Oak & Acorn Only For The Rebelles

Culture Isn’t Monolithic, So Why Has Colorism Endured? This Clubhouse event was courteously hosted by Miko Underwood, the Founder of Oak & Acorn. Joined by Ikeme Eshemokhai, Ebony Underwood, Whitney McGuire, Simone Berry, Raina Munson, Hannah Stoudemire, Jasmine Fernandez, Dominique Drakeford and myself. This circle of powerful, diverse perspectives unpacked a wealth of conversation on the multiethnic experience. As mentioned with the original Clubhouse reference, you can follow our ATPB Club @alltheprettybirds to partake in live sessions.


Altogether, it is so deeply inspiring to review these discussions from March. I see how urgent it is that we continue them 12 months of the year. These are issues that we need to be constantly working through. We must continue our efforts to unlearn harmful societal conventions and to heal oppressive wounds. We are stronger together Sisters! In memory of March, we encourage you to explore these conversations, their nuances, and welcome diverse perspectives. As always, keep up with us in the comments to share your thoughts on these discussions. Until next time, Pretty Birds! Xx


Feature image credit: Liz Zepeda, Brand Director of @ShopMcMullen


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A Note from the Editor: Love and Always Love

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